Have you ever had a memory that changed as you aged? Have you ever made a mistake that later wasn’t? Do you believe in miracles?
It is a miracle that I am alive after all of the mistakes I made as a teenager and young adult. When I think back on those memories I feel deep regret and shame. I am not sure how I could have been so irresponsible. What was I thinking? I have found it very hard to advise my teenager/young adult children on responsibility when I was one of the least responsible in my little group.
At the time I thought I was “cool” and “invincible”. Nothing bad could happen to me, and nothing did. Now when I look back at those memories I see them through the eyes of a parent, a parent of teenager/young adult children. My vivid imagination can see the shattered windshield, the crushed passenger door and the wheels spinning in the air.
Thankfully I have had an open and realistic relationship with my children. I have been honest with them about the mistakes I have made and how fortunate I am to be here. I also understand that no matter what I tell them, they get the option to live their lives and I hope they will make the best choices. They are now learning from my mistakes so perhaps my mistakes will turn into something better.